tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7095951768234160107.post1025839507087330466..comments2023-08-11T08:03:09.268-04:00Comments on New Sober Life: AA Step Nine - Made Direct AmendsSober Lifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04317131703499340784noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7095951768234160107.post-84205995584862639472013-05-10T23:06:21.927-04:002013-05-10T23:06:21.927-04:00Thanks for the comment and the advice, Paul. I hav...Thanks for the comment and the advice, Paul. I have started... I have made an amend without saying I am sorry, wheeew! Thanks for the support, it sure helped a bunch! Sober Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04317131703499340784noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7095951768234160107.post-55371392555779378652013-05-09T12:08:04.454-04:002013-05-09T12:08:04.454-04:00Amends - I can go on for a spell about them...love...Amends - I can go on for a spell about them...love and fearful of them at the same time. I too have a handful left - been lazy and perhaps unwilling. Sigh. And it's coming off the heels of having done a whack of amends and having nothing but incredible responses and reactions (so far). Yes, amends are not apologies. I never said "I am sorry" once in my amends. I just said that I harmed them, told them the harm, and then asked what I could do to make it right. That was it. And if there was anything else that I left out, if they wanted to let me know, then to go ahead. And then I would shut up. And most often, unless I am paying money, most people just said they wanted nothing but for me to stay sober. And that was groovy. But when I go to amends, I am more than willing to do what they ask...unless it's illegal or immoral! <br /><br />anyway, so glad to hear that you are going on these...amazing stuff will happen. Lots of prayers, I needed...but once you get past the fear, it's show time :)<br /><br />Good luck!<br /><br />PaulAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7095951768234160107.post-23114428916740431082013-05-05T00:29:38.545-04:002013-05-05T00:29:38.545-04:00Hi! Thanks for the comment, can't wait to read...Hi! Thanks for the comment, can't wait to read your post! Yes most definitely the humility aspect is tough, I think I am trying to not think about how am I going to actually admit that "I did this to you" - I think I am just gonna do it, I think the hard part for me is the actual reaction that I might get, of course I am expecting the worst! Lol! But I have to believe others when they share about how making amends made them feel in the end and how it helped them move forward and heal relationships - that's my focus. Thanks for visiting :)Sober Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04317131703499340784noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7095951768234160107.post-81477591547145438732013-05-04T08:12:05.634-04:002013-05-04T08:12:05.634-04:00Good Morning, SL! On my blog I am doing a series ...Good Morning, SL! On my blog I am doing a series on the Steps, in fact I just posted on Step 4 yesterday, so I LOVE this post!! I will have to reference it again when I get to Step 9 in my series!<br /><br />For me, I am not through with all my amends, I got the biggest ones out of the way, but then stalled. The humility is appears to take is a tougher obstacle than I originally anticipated. It's not question of "will they or won't they" (forgive me, that is), it's about summoning the courage to look someone in the eye and admit, "I did this to you." I'll get there, though!<br /><br />Also, just went to a meeting 2 days ago, and we discussed, as a group, the difference between amends and apologies. The group to the same conclusion that you did... apologies are about saying I'm sorry, amends are about making it right.<br /><br />Great stuff!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com